Letting go of victim mentality takes a lot of effort and work, to feel like a victim can be like having a friend you cling to, because that was the one you had through the rough periods in life and it helped you. But to see and release the victimhood and all of its stories, you will need to ask yourself to open your eyes and have a clear look at yourself. Therapy can help you in many ways, and you may understand the dynamics with your conscious mind, but to actually take the necessary steps out of victimhood demands another level of commitment. The work of unchaining yourself from all the cycles, strategies, dynamics, relationships demands honesty.
Part of this process is to acknowledge what is our own wishful thinking, passivity so we can take genuine steps out of the victim role. If you think you are done with the role and still have something left, life will test you/show you where you believe you have done the work.
In victimhood we interpret a specific experience and a story and a pattern takes form, it keeps going when we relive those specific interpretations, over and over. The work of changing yourself from victimhood to empowerment you will need to work on your own ability to interpret more neutral. Look at your pattern and story in a more neutral way, where you are releasing feelings and creating inner space, that helps you to change your victimpatterns and stories.
Either we continue our wounds and traumas or we heal. Everything is about our capacity of letting go and to re-open our hearts. Victimhood is self betrayal – because we have choices and the power to change ourselves and the direction of our life. Victimhood cannot help you to live the life you want no matter how many times you pity, blame, feel broken, feeling out of control, your inner loops, avoiding responsibility for yourself and your life situation.
Be interested in living your life again, believe you can change all the large fluctuations, flying high, falling deep, look for being in a safe harbour. Be more clear about your wishes and needs, and meet your needs, notice the role you play in this, explore all the false beliefs and thoughts. Know where you are staying in your life, in your roles and patterns, in your heart.
Dont accept chaos and helplessness, you learned the helpless state at a certain time where that was nothing else to do, now is different, Shed light on your own darkness and unconscious areas, look for peace and remember there is so much help from the divine.

An energy walk
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