Rest is part of the selflove work

In the start were perhaps not very good at it…its like a muscle we need to exercise step by step

I still have periods where I realize I have forgotten to rest enough, being out of balance, where so many things outside myself have taken over my time and space, so I don’t have enough time for myself…I think it’s a constant awareness.

Start with the small things in dailylife

Being aware of the morning fog or the sun at your face, remembering to breathe, breathing deeply, allowing a slow pace in whatever you are doing, walking barefooted, understanding that rest is more than 9 hours sleep and napping, rest is listening to your nervous system, its knowing you are enough, hugging yourself and those you love, being aware of your self criticism, and that you are worthy of rest, slowing down is important, focusing on the quality of life, listening to your body and its signals, its telling us when to rest, resting is not being lazy or in danger, resting is selflove.

The other day I had a day with 8 meetings in a row, it felt efficient and a lot was done, but actually in the end it was not really nice…and made me realize again (not the first time 🙂 ), that efficiency doesn’t demand being fast or overruling myself and me-time, busy is not a quality. I can still find myself being very busy, but when I look at it more deeply, its my way of looking for validation, which I again and again are aware of…overworking is not the path to love, or being seen, its just and old pattern…

My work is to become conscious of my own signals, and Im definitely better at it when I meditate, when I have a running rhytm or having selfawareness in my schedule. Im not alone, I see it everyday everywhere, its part of society, perhaps that’s why I miss Greenland, I felt there was a slower healthier pace, in more contact with nature

I have some rules, I tend to go to bed around 9-9:30 pm(Im working on letting go of my phone at that time as well), I try not to run after my bus or train, I take the stairs, no work phone when I have lunch, most Fridays I visit my old father after work when the weekend start, so we have enough time and I am more slowed down, every Saturday I join my youngest daughter when she walk two lovely dachshund, we always laugh and talk about the week or something else needed, my mornings are important, soft time in the mornings sets the tone for the rest of my day, I work on being conscious about my thoughts – watching them and not listening to them.

For those of us who have had a lot of stress in our life perhaps since childhood, remember that when we have done all the good selflove work and have peace and quiet in our life, we can experience different emotions in the absence of stress, unease, feeling bored etc. (yet another level of becoming true to ourself), see it, see yourself clearly, and kindly offer yourself the opportunity not to override all the good work you have been doing, don’t engage in your old patterns, let go of draining energy, dont allow feeling exhausted again…or overpouring, fighting

becoming aware is to ask yourself;

“what kind of energy do I allow in my life?”

you and your energy is important – surrender to yourself and life

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