Perhaps you grew up in a dysfunctional home or have experienced a lot of difficulties in life, traumas, heartache, pain and struggles you will need to tell yourself and especially your thoughts and thought patterns that life can be good, it can be gentle, loving, full of good people, where you feel safe and experience…
To live your life now, go after what you are longing and dreaming about, it doesn’t have to be the big things, it’s more a matter of being you. I have an old father with dementia and spending time with him reminds me to live now. His fading memory comes in waves, sometimes I think…
Perhaps you grew up in a dysfunctional home or have experienced a lot of difficulties in life, traumas, heartache, pain and struggles you will need to tell yourself and especially your thoughts and thought patterns that life can be good, it can be gentle, loving, full of good people, where you feel safe and experience a peaceful life.
The old thought patterns in survival mode disempower you, offer yourself little by little to rewire the way you think, so you are able to believe in peace, trust, love and tenderness. Sometimes I really have to remind myself that I can express myself in so many creative ways, that life can be fun and it is okay to relax….
I wish we could sit together and eat my homemade bread and a nice cup of coffee…
“it will eventually change”, our old view from our house in Greenland, a photo I took from our livingroom one day…
For living authentically, connect deeply and understand reality beyond you can be inspired by these lovely movies : Wisdom of Happiness with Dalai Lama, directed by Barbara Miller and Philip Delaquis, the Dalai Lama emphasizes compassion, mindfulness, and cultivating inner peace. Innsæi the power of intuition, by Icelandic Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir, explores intuition as a form…
Love is feeling energized and aligned, love is also boundaries and self-respect, it is okay to feel lonely if you are the only one doing some inner work, the most important thing is to stay connected with yourself, we can care for others and have responsibilities, but your needs matters, learning your own needs and…
Do what speaks to your soul, we don’t have to match others and to do what is correct, accepted, the proper thing or something and someone others can tolerate, just because they can’t see you or what you see doesn’t mean you need to change yourself to belong, to be loved, trusted, being part of…
To live your life now, go after what you are longing and dreaming about, it doesn’t have to be the big things, it’s more a matter of being you. I have an old father with dementia and spending time with him reminds me to live now. His fading memory comes in waves, sometimes I think about when he will be all gone in the forgetfulness. His mind transport him to another time and space, searching for comforting memories or a more safe, quiet or shut down place. It’s a huge shift in how to relate and identity with him. Before dementia he was very outgoing, social, knew so many people and engaged in a lot of things, now he is the opposite, I really have to keep myself openminded and compassionate with him, and also towards myself and my own identity related to him.
I have several times offered mediumship sessions for relatives to people with dementia and alzheimer’s- and its so touching to sense the healing and comfort it is for the them to know their relatives are still keeping a bond on a soul level.
24 TOP REGRETS OF THE DYING
*Recorded by hospice nurses around the world.
◦ I wish I hadn’t spent so much time worrying about things that never happened
I wish I had : ◦ the courage to just be myself ◦ spent more time with the people I love ◦ made spirituality more of a priority ◦ hadn’t spent so much time working ◦ discovered my purpose earlier ◦ learned to express my feelings more ◦ taken more risks ◦ cared less about what other people thought ◦ realized earlier that happiness is a choice ◦ loved more ◦ taken better care of myself ◦ been a better spouse ◦ paid less attention to other people’s expectations ◦ quit my job and found something I really enjoyed doing ◦ stayed in touch with old friends ◦ spoken my mind more ◦ hadn’t spent so much time chasing the wrong things ◦ more children ◦ touched more lives ◦ thought about life’s big question earlier ◦ traveled more ◦ lived more in the moment ◦ pursued more of my dreams
When we are having traumas, survival strategies or repeating things in our life, it is our thoughts, memories, patterns and imagination we need to deal with. Past and future doesn´t exist, but we visit and revisit both of them over and over, and we have a specific response to them, and our response create our…
If you are more curious about me, I have another blog called aviajaspace, I have had it since 2012, it is a joyful part of my life when my children where small, a blog where I could express my creative side in the evenings and still being at home…its very rare I post at my…
Different paths, different teachers, but what works the best you finding your own medicine, whatever form that is, you will sense it in your body, in your life, it is a matter of inviting in to your love all the things you love, start with the small things, it will grow, it will guide you…
For living authentically, connect deeply and understand reality beyond you can be inspired by these lovely movies :
Wisdom of Happiness with Dalai Lama, directed by Barbara Miller and Philip Delaquis, the Dalai Lama emphasizes compassion, mindfulness, and cultivating inner peace.
Innsæi the power of intuition, by Icelandic Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir, explores intuition as a form of deep knowing beyond analytical thinking.
Going home about Ram Dass, by Derek Peck, Ram Dass reflects on aging, death, presence, and spiritual awakening.
Doing good – Mannan fra Snåsa about the norwegian seer/healer Joralf Gjerstad by Margreth Olin, Joralf Gjerstad trusts an inner calling to help others through healing.
The tundra within me by Sara Magrethe Oskal, the protagonist seeks to reconnect with her identity and inner truth.
Some answer it through meditation, some through intuition, some through indigenous identity, some through healing, and some through non-dual awareness. But they all suggest that fulfillment comes less from acquiring more and more from remembering or rediscovering something fundamental that was already present. We all have our own path to coming home to ourself.
Yesterday I went straight from work to the beach with my girls, to celebrate my youngest daughter had passed the theorethic test for her drivers license and me having 3 weeks of vacation. So lovely to swim and laugh with them. Later I decided to stay in the City at my daughters home, because Im…
Sometimes when we experience feelings as fear or anxiety, our mind can push it out in the back so we forget about it, but the feeling is stored in the body. When we enter an environment, where the senses remind of that experience it activates our nervous system and our body react on it. That’s…
Love is feeling energized and aligned, love is also boundaries and self-respect, it is okay to feel lonely if you are the only one doing some inner work, the most important thing is to stay connected with yourself, we can care for others and have responsibilities, but your needs matters, learning your own needs and keeping your balance is selflove. Put yourself first…
After a long day in the sun at the beach, me and my girls went home and rearranged one of our balconies so it had more privacy with some bamboo fence, and had late dinner outside in the shadow, it was so cosy being together, relaxed, full, tired, open and on and off came birds and insects to check on what we did. Smudging with Palo Santo and sage, pulling different cards, connection, being medicine for each other and ourselves, feeling like a long break, doing nothing, resting, I love the way we are a family, the way Im a parent and how we love, just remember if we are not showed love as children, or having rolemodels, being guided in our dailylife, it will take some time to understand selflove and what love is.
We dont have to be good, happy, strong to be loved, we dont have to keep everything together, nurture everyone, you dont have to pretend anything, no facades, or I’m okay or you handled it so well….we can chose another path.
Be your own home, your heart is your home, as a professional interior designer I have always looked at space in a holistic way, everything is connected, rooms, people, things, everything is sacred and so are you, the love we seek begins from within.
a bouquet I gave my father, placed on a textile I have at home, I love the colors
Next week Im visiting a very very old and very large building from the 1700s, where I am asked to offer a house clearing and sense what is going on. I cannot write about where, what and who, but I really look forward to help. When they asked me if I was able to help…
Letting go of victim mentality takes a lot of effort and work, to feel like a victim can be like having a friend you cling to, because that was the one you had through the rough periods in life and it helped you. But to see and release the victimhood and all of its stories,…
I have always had a lot of dream activity – in periods very clear and helpful messages I have used to guide myself through life. In this period where Im still in the Tibetan Dream and Sleep Yoga course, I had a dream some nights ago which I thought was interesting to write about. I…
Do what speaks to your soul, we don’t have to match others and to do what is correct, accepted, the proper thing or something and someone others can tolerate, just because they can’t see you or what you see doesn’t mean you need to change yourself to belong, to be loved, trusted, being part of a community, being you – you are freeing the trapped parts of yourself, the being small and hidden parts, and some people will never see us, they are probably neglecting themselves, slow down, listen within, rest, rest, rest and adjust to the one inside.
sitting with a butterfly in the early spring in Joshua Tree Retreat Center
Much of the world is build around and alongside the intellect and the rational, but how do we know what we know? Is knowledge solely something derived from measurement and the presentation of evidence, or can it also come from experience, intuition, dreams, relationships, and the direct experience of life? Many before me have probably…
I think we all know that if you want to help others you need to help yourself first. How do we help ourself? As children many of us feel loneliness, because our own parents had traumas, unhealed experiences either inherited or gained through their childhood, I think it is so common… I come from a…
If people don’t understand our personal language, I would not compromise and try to fit in, nor would I as the one not understanding others focus on what I dont understand, instead I would look for languages we have in common. You may think it could be where we are born, languages, religions, our race…
When we are having traumas, survival strategies or repeating things in our life, it is our thoughts, memories, patterns and imagination we need to deal with. Past and future doesn´t exist, but we visit and revisit both of them over and over, and we have a specific response to them, and our response create our suffering.
I do understand that sometimes we face difficult things in life, which feels unfair, hard to understand, or we don’t know how to face or deal with them – other times we are filling in the blanks when our life feels unclear, hoping, fearing, imagining.
Our response to our thoughts can rule minutes, hours or long periods of our life, and can become a kind of comfort zone for us, a way of closing ourselves down to a safe space. We get so caught up in the stories, the thought patterns that we dont even see how they are ruling us. If we want to step out of them it demands some curiosity, we need to step out of our self limiting, safe boxes.
Sometimes we create thoughts in our mind, so we don’t have to deal with our emotions, for different reasons. Perhaps we need to learn how to hold ourself through emotional responses, in general holding space for ourself, offering ourself time, love and care.
Other times we have life experiences which offer us a possibility to grow, and we chose if we want to take the gift, face the situation and evolve from where we are, or we stay at the same place.
Resisting will keep you stuck – accepting will make things move and flow. And offer yourself enough time for the changes, perhaps you will need to repeat the new response for a long time, its like understanding this is what I need, then we are going back to our strategies, old responses, because it makes you feel safe – it is our old friend we have spent a lot of time with. Some times we project our patterns on other people and dont even see our own coping mechanism, we try to escape from our ourself.
Other times we are able to make the change immediately, when we see, hear and hold ourself directly. Everything is energy, and we can help the energy to move and flow by letting go of control, seeing the repeating pattern as something that is asking for your attention and help and knowing that what we are avoiding is the path to an open heart.
My youngest daughter Milla, made this drawing for me many years ago, selflove is power
rain comes and go and water the plants and flowers – and the wind is reminding us that you may not see it, but you can sense it, we need all kind of weather to grow. We don’t always need to know what is going on, but we can decide if we want to see…
When you throw a stone in to the water, everything stir up, perhaps it gets muddy, and you have to wait for the stone to go to the bottom, and then the water becomes clear again. If you feel you always have had a lot of difficulties and struggles in life, it could be either…
Stretch for your consciousness, learn to relax, and the most important thing, love yourself, really love yourself, listen to your needs, listen to what you need to offer yourself this very moment. Today I worked from home, and later had an appointment with a friend, and the plan was to go to the beach and…
If you are more curious about me, I have another blog called aviajaspace, I have had it since 2012, it is a joyful part of my life when my children where small, a blog where I could express my creative side in the evenings and still being at home…its very rare I post at my old page, but there is a lot of activity and I appreciate it a lot, that people from all over the world are reading it. Have a look…and enjoy.
that something should have been in another way that you are not worth it fear running the show you don’t have time death you don´t have enough, money, ressources, etc. you are not in connection with yourself or others that you cannot handle or control it Remember you have so much power
I love my plants and all the insects visiting them, I always pick plants which I know the insects love, so they have something to choose between- every morning and evening I have a little routine with my plants, are they okay, do they need something, or just saying hi to the bees, sometimes it…
We are forever creation The light Love Joy Connection We are meaningful We are presence, this moment We are spirit and peace Energy and frequency We are NOW and at Home in our Center
Different paths, different teachers, but what works the best you finding your own medicine, whatever form that is, you will sense it in your body, in your life, it is a matter of inviting in to your love all the things you love, start with the small things, it will grow, it will guide you on your path, sometimes you will feel lost, it is part of the road, sitting with it, going deeper inside of yourself, detours are also pointers and blessings although it doesn’t look that way, sometimes we are only able to see it later on our path that the changes in direction helped us. We cannot force ourself on the path, sometimes it takes time and faith, other times, we are put on our road in an instant. Be you, try to let go of who you think you are suppose to be, all the stories, expectations and feelings of powerlessness. Being in solitary will help you to slow down all the outside noise, we are not supposed to arrive somewhere, a goal or a specific achievement- this is about being who you are every moment, we are the spark of light, a divine being, connected, one, creator creating itself in every moment, love in form, be in your own presence, listen to yourself…
Lately have I been re-practicing slowing down, because I felt it was building up at work, busyness, demands, limited time, feeling exhausted when I got home, fuzzy in my head, you probably know the feeling. So I have been very much aware of my plate of projects, and accepting I wasn’t able to help everyone…
My Tibetan Dream and Sleep Yoga teacher is saying Life is a school where you learn how to remember, what your soul already knows Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche
Yesterday a dear friend of mine invited me to a morning talk at The Museum of Louisiana for a current exhibition about Lucian Freud. As I work with the soul, energy, and the inner landscape of human beings, I see Lucian Freud’s art as revealing how our life experiences are carried and expressed through the…
I have always had vivid dreams and a rich dreamlife. In periods I have been able to awake myself in my dream state and tell myself that I was dreaming, that’s funny, but not in the meaning of awakening up from my sleep, I just told myself in my dream state that I was dreaming…
Deep contemplation lately The artistic, the creative, the unfolding is also a spiritual process; they go hand in hand. It requires inwardness and calm. There are things that are very difficult to attain if the mind is highly outward-focused. If it has to be outward, organizing, and in contact with a lot of people, that…
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