meaning

When we are having traumas, survival strategies or repeating things in our life, it is our thoughts, memories, patterns and imagination we need to deal with. Past and future doesn´t exist, but we visit and revisit both of them over and over, and we have a specific response to them, and our response create our suffering.

I do understand that sometimes we face difficult things in life, which feels unfair, hard to understand, or we don’t know how to face or deal with them – other times we are filling in the blanks when our life feels unclear, hoping, fearing, imagining.

Our response to our thoughts can rule minutes, hours or long periods of our life, and can become a kind of comfort zone for us, a way of closing ourselves down to a safe space. We get so caught up in the stories, the thought patterns that we dont even see how they are ruling us. If we want to step out of them it demands some curiosity, we need to step out of our self limiting, safe boxes.

Sometimes we create thoughts in our mind, so we don’t have to deal with our emotions, for different reasons. Perhaps we need to learn how to hold ourself through emotional responses, in general holding space for ourself, offering ourself time, love and care.

Other times we have life experiences which offer us a possibility to grow, and we chose if we want to take the gift, face the situation and evolve from where we are, or we stay at the same place.

Resisting will keep you stuck – accepting will make things move and flow. And offer yourself enough time for the changes, perhaps you will need to repeat the new response for a long time, its like understanding this is what I need, then we are going back to our strategies, old responses, because it makes you feel safe – it is our old friend we have spent a lot of time with. Some times we project our patterns on other people and dont even see our own coping mechanism, we try to escape from our ourself.

Other times we are able to make the change immediately, when we see, hear and hold ourself directly. Everything is energy, and we can help the energy to move and flow by letting go of control, seeing the repeating pattern as something that is asking for your attention and help and knowing that what we are avoiding is the path to an open heart.

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