Return back to yourself

Love is healing

Healing is love

You need to take it easy, don’t think you have to make miracles for everybody

I had a talk with someone yesterday in one of my interior projects, he had a lot of responsibility in his personal life and shared he had a tendency to think negatively – which is very common when you are overwhelmed, busy, no time for yourself and your dailylife just runs fast. I have been there myself, handling everything, you get so overstimulated, that it easily can start a negative thought pattern in you…

I told him to be kind to himself, be aware of his boundaries and only focus on the most important thing in his life, himself, sleep and his child, enough sleep is so important – sleep is not only rest, you also regulate and repair during deep sleep.

If you are a very responsible person, perhaps taught during childhood to be overly responsible, you will be exposed to people and lifesituations which will trigger you. At a certain point you may realize, that when you take responsibility for everyone – you loose yourself, you disappear, you loose your own connection with yourself, you shrink and become less and sometimes you even become invisible, perhaps you have known this pattern from an early age.

I certainly do, it’s a way of dealing with life, because nobody shows you the healthy way of love, so you connect love with helping and taking responsibility.

That’s why it feels so difficult to stop taking responsibility for others, because everybody needs to belong and receive love in their life. When you start realizing that all those areas in your life where you say yes but feel no inside, you feel overwhelmed, exploited, and have too much on your plate everyday, you actually loose your energy and lifespark. The path home is to reconnect and care for yourself.

The phase is demanding, but also a sign of that you have been outgrowing the old version of yourself. The “you” who was trying to be everything for everybody.

When you understand that you dont have to earn to belong and to receive love, but instead – who you are right now with everything is enough. As a little one when we are taught that love is conditional, that you are needed to recieve love, at the cost of hiding yourself and your pain, being invisible, we actually end up as unseen children and adults – we learn to unsee our own needs and it result in emotional disconnection.

It’s lonely…it feels like loneliness and perhaps you feel lost. In the process of understanding that sometimes what people mean to you is not what you mean to them, is to step back and love yourself. Just because we address a situation, a problem, we are not the problem, we are unhealed, we are triggered. Offer yourself time for your own feelings, don’t answer the phone, allow yourself to cry and your real emotions, be alone, pause.

When you reconnect with yourself you nurture honesty, feeling safe, selfrespect, authenticity, feeling at peace and quiet inside yourself…and that will show up in your life….

I read somewhere, “healing change your taste in people”, that is so true…be guided by yourself and your inner connection. Selflove is so important….

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