Remember that children are closer to life and being the soul they are. Most of us have for many years been trained out of the natural way of being and our soul awareness. Although it is common we adults are expected to be the wise ones – we are given another opportunity to learn how to be in life and be the soul through “our” children…inner and outer children. This is me as a little – From time to time I ask little me what she need and how I can connect more with her in my dailylife.
yesterday afternoon me and my youngest daughter went to The National Gallery of Denmark – SMK – to spent a lovely late afternoon/early evening and explore art together. I really love to experience modern art (I appreciate the older art indeed, and have been drawing a lot at all kinds of museums in Denmark and…
Just a little tip if you are in to spiritual advisors and have access to Disney+ see korean show Battle of Fates which is a competitive elimination show where 49 fortune-tellers, shamans, saju practitioners (traditional Korean birth-date divination), tarot readers, and face/foot readers compete in predictive challenges. If you can look through all the dramatic…
Leave old patterns, where your place in the relationship are tied to what you give, or are taking responsibility for or for what you offer. Choose selflove instead of fear for being alone, choose selflove so you can be in relationships where you are chosen for the one you are – not for what you…
What drives your energy? is it fear or is it a zest for life, joy and spontaneity? In our world of rules and hardship, there must be something that keeps our hearts beating. Wishes, dreams and determination – your heart should beat, beat for something that brings you joy, so your soul can sing. See…
What’s the worst thing that can happen? A lot can happen, also the worst things, we make mistakes, and it seems there is no reason for why the things happened, but there will be good days, you will share hugs and kisses, we can try to prepare ourself for life situations, but for the most…
Rest is part of the selflove work In the start were perhaps not very good at it…its like a muscle we need to exercise step by step I still have periods where I realize I have forgotten to rest enough, being out of balance, where so many things outside myself have taken over my time…
Perhaps you grew up in a dysfunctional home or have experienced a lot of difficulties in life, traumas, heartache, pain and struggles you will need to tell yourself and especially your thoughts and thought patterns that life can be good, it can be gentle, loving, full of good people, where you feel safe and experience a peaceful life.
The old thought patterns in survival mode disempower you, offer yourself little by little to rewire the way you think, so you are able to believe in peace, trust, love and tenderness. Sometimes I really have to remind myself that I can express myself in so many creative ways, that life can be fun and it is okay to relax….
I wish we could sit together and eat my homemade bread and a nice cup of coffee…
“it will eventually change”, our old view from our house in Greenland, a photo I took from our livingroom one day…
Love is healing Healing is love You need to take it easy, don’t think you have to make miracles for everybody I had a talk with someone yesterday in one of my interior projects, he had a lot of responsibility in his personal life and shared he had a tendency to think negatively – which…
“It is good to help people, but also allow time for you everyones journey is going back to themselves, going within, understanding selflove as well as love for others is the core of the journey some days more than others we need to go within and offer ourself some selflove, you are not mean or…
Beautiful rich days, full of people, invitations, activities, sauna, champagne and swimming in the habour of Copenhagen at a friends party, long days with a lot of interior design work and projects, everything is working out for the good for the moment, lots of family time and beauty at the annual Mikaela marked in Helsingborg,…
To live your life now, go after what you are longing and dreaming about, it doesn’t have to be the big things, it’s more a matter of being you. I have an old father with dementia and spending time with him reminds me to live now. His fading memory comes in waves, sometimes I think about when he will be all gone in the forgetfulness. His mind transport him to another time and space, searching for comforting memories or a more safe, quiet or shut down place. It’s a huge shift in how to relate and identity with him. Before dementia he was very outgoing, social, knew so many people and engaged in a lot of things, now he is the opposite, I really have to keep myself openminded and compassionate with him, and also towards myself and my own identity related to him.
I have several times offered mediumship sessions for relatives to people with dementia and alzheimer’s- and its so touching to sense the healing and comfort it is for the them to know their relatives are still keeping a bond on a soul level.
24 TOP REGRETS OF THE DYING
*Recorded by hospice nurses around the world.
◦ I wish I hadn’t spent so much time worrying about things that never happened
I wish I had : ◦ the courage to just be myself ◦ spent more time with the people I love ◦ made spirituality more of a priority ◦ hadn’t spent so much time working ◦ discovered my purpose earlier ◦ learned to express my feelings more ◦ taken more risks ◦ cared less about what other people thought ◦ realized earlier that happiness is a choice ◦ loved more ◦ taken better care of myself ◦ been a better spouse ◦ paid less attention to other people’s expectations ◦ quit my job and found something I really enjoyed doing ◦ stayed in touch with old friends ◦ spoken my mind more ◦ hadn’t spent so much time chasing the wrong things ◦ more children ◦ touched more lives ◦ thought about life’s big question earlier ◦ traveled more ◦ lived more in the moment ◦ pursued more of my dreams
Doing what is best for you and realizing you dont have to tolerate anything with anybody teach you how to keep inner peace. When you in the start have patience with other people, perhaps excuse them, later tolerate their behavior or hidden intentions, it’s actually self abandonment – keep those boundaries. At some point when…
days with readings and sessions….tuning in, flashes, just knowing, quick images, honoring the nudges, other times very clear and strong messages that won’t leave me before the event has happened, no second guessing, I trust my intuition, seeing direct through ego pansers and what some people are trying to hide, spirit helps me, both my…
this time of the year, warm colors, soft soil, plenty of fish, berries, reindeers, crisp air, winter is watching from a distance, welly time, filling up freezer, Mother Earth is generous, animals and people collecting in nature… people and traditions, not surrounded by this, these years, but my body remembers the season, the traditions, proudly…
For living authentically, connect deeply and understand reality beyond you can be inspired by these lovely movies :
Wisdom of Happiness with Dalai Lama, directed by Barbara Miller and Philip Delaquis, the Dalai Lama emphasizes compassion, mindfulness, and cultivating inner peace.
Innsæi the power of intuition, by Icelandic Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir, explores intuition as a form of deep knowing beyond analytical thinking.
Going home about Ram Dass, by Derek Peck, Ram Dass reflects on aging, death, presence, and spiritual awakening.
Doing good – Mannan fra Snåsa about the norwegian seer/healer Joralf Gjerstad by Margreth Olin, Joralf Gjerstad trusts an inner calling to help others through healing.
The tundra within me by Sara Magrethe Oskal, the protagonist seeks to reconnect with her identity and inner truth.
Some answer it through meditation, some through intuition, some through indigenous identity, some through healing, and some through non-dual awareness. But they all suggest that fulfillment comes less from acquiring more and more from remembering or rediscovering something fundamental that was already present. We all have our own path to coming home to ourself.
waiting, watching, connecting to a wellknown universe – you are sacred every moment in whatever you do and are, thinking it has to be in a certain way, ceremonially or a specific place, let go of that, every moment is our medicine, awaken, alive, in our heart there is nothing to do or be or…
the uncomfortable feeling of being in-between the one I was and the one Im becoming expanding, stretching, shedding, evolving, less of the old – more of the new some days slow and silent, other days fast and loud, some something else there is no ready, just expression and allowing free your energy all of you…
be proud of who you are and have done, just remember you are not our accomplishments – you are your energy, your soul, what you are here, present, alive, in the world to experience it. not all people are qualified to tell you who you are sense the truth through your gut, no matter what…
Love is feeling energized and aligned, love is also boundaries and self-respect, it is okay to feel lonely if you are the only one doing some inner work, the most important thing is to stay connected with yourself, we can care for others and have responsibilities, but your needs matters, learning your own needs and keeping your balance is selflove. Put yourself first…
After a long day in the sun at the beach, me and my girls went home and rearranged one of our balconies so it had more privacy with some bamboo fence, and had late dinner outside in the shadow, it was so cosy being together, relaxed, full, tired, open and on and off came birds and insects to check on what we did. Smudging with Palo Santo and sage, pulling different cards, connection, being medicine for each other and ourselves, feeling like a long break, doing nothing, resting, I love the way we are a family, the way Im a parent and how we love, just remember if we are not showed love as children, or having rolemodels, being guided in our dailylife, it will take some time to understand selflove and what love is.
We dont have to be good, happy, strong to be loved, we dont have to keep everything together, nurture everyone, you dont have to pretend anything, no facades, or I’m okay or you handled it so well….we can chose another path.
Be your own home, your heart is your home, as a professional interior designer I have always looked at space in a holistic way, everything is connected, rooms, people, things, everything is sacred and so are you, the love we seek begins from within.
a bouquet I gave my father, placed on a textile I have at home, I love the colors
I have always loved to read, all kinds of literature – but for the last ten years it has mostly been non-fictional books, and I have felt I kind of had to relearn reading fictional books. I went to the library some days ago with my eldest daughter to pick up a non fictional book,…
Close your eyes Inhale, exhale Just be Feel your body, feel your heart Be yourself, no reaction to anything – not even your body and mind Just witness and become silent and quiet
Do what speaks to your soul, we don’t have to match others and to do what is correct, accepted, the proper thing or something and someone others can tolerate, just because they can’t see you or what you see doesn’t mean you need to change yourself to belong, to be loved, trusted, being part of a community, being you – you are freeing the trapped parts of yourself, the being small and hidden parts, and some people will never see us, they are probably neglecting themselves, slow down, listen within, rest, rest, rest and adjust to the one inside.
sitting with a butterfly in the early spring in Joshua Tree Retreat Center
I love how I feel inside when I knit…the tenderness, a calm and quiet feeling. I am knitting a lot for the moment, at home, in the train, sometimes at meetings…for me knitting are the opposite of busy and rushing, its something I do for me (although the knit is often gifts for others), its…
Spiritual awakening doesn’t have to be grande and loud, extrovert and full of energy and bling bling, it doesn’t have to be together with a spiritual group or teacher, you dont even have to understand everything and see the big picture or find answers, sometimes it is so quiet and in your own company, feeling…
When we are having traumas, survival strategies or repeating things in our life, it is our thoughts, memories, patterns and imagination we need to deal with. Past and future doesn´t exist, but we visit and revisit both of them over and over, and we have a specific response to them, and our response create our suffering.
I do understand that sometimes we face difficult things in life, which feels unfair, hard to understand, or we don’t know how to face or deal with them – other times we are filling in the blanks when our life feels unclear, hoping, fearing, imagining.
Our response to our thoughts can rule minutes, hours or long periods of our life, and can become a kind of comfort zone for us, a way of closing ourselves down to a safe space. We get so caught up in the stories, the thought patterns that we dont even see how they are ruling us. If we want to step out of them it demands some curiosity, we need to step out of our self limiting, safe boxes.
Sometimes we create thoughts in our mind, so we don’t have to deal with our emotions, for different reasons. Perhaps we need to learn how to hold ourself through emotional responses, in general holding space for ourself, offering ourself time, love and care.
Other times we have life experiences which offer us a possibility to grow, and we chose if we want to take the gift, face the situation and evolve from where we are, or we stay at the same place.
Resisting will keep you stuck – accepting will make things move and flow. And offer yourself enough time for the changes, perhaps you will need to repeat the new response for a long time, its like understanding this is what I need, then we are going back to our strategies, old responses, because it makes you feel safe – it is our old friend we have spent a lot of time with. Some times we project our patterns on other people and dont even see our own coping mechanism, we try to escape from our ourself.
Other times we are able to make the change immediately, when we see, hear and hold ourself directly. Everything is energy, and we can help the energy to move and flow by letting go of control, seeing the repeating pattern as something that is asking for your attention and help and knowing that what we are avoiding is the path to an open heart.
My youngest daughter Milla, made this drawing for me many years ago, selflove is power
As some of you may know Im a professional interior designer and work with space in my dailylife. For me space is both the outer physical – but also something we experience, a felt and sensed experience, our intuition tapping in to the environment. We sense imprints from the past and what is going on…
Fear of being seen has not so much to do with exposing oneself to every situation being out of your comfort zone, but I want to look at it from another angle. In a natural state of Being we dare to be ourself all the time. The opposite is showing the world what we think…
A very lovely path to yourself is through a passion or leisure activity. What do you love to do? Cooking or baking, playing an instrument, something creative like writing, photography, painting, hiking, yoga, swimming, books, gardening, crafts…something that makes you relax, forget about time, something that feels like you and the thing you do are…
If you are more curious about me, I have another blog called aviajaspace, I have had it since 2012, it is a joyful part of my life when my children where small, a blog where I could express my creative side in the evenings and still being at home…its very rare I post at my old page, but there is a lot of activity and I appreciate it a lot, that people from all over the world are reading it. Have a look…and enjoy.
Before writing this piece, I have had some days reflecting on different situations and experiences in my life, and my own habits and patterns through out my life. I realized that how easily we devote so much of our energy to understanding other people. Yet the more we analyze them, the further we often drift…
The Icelandic title for the movie the Love that Remains, I watched it last weekend and although the theme was about a family going through a separation over a year, there was something about the visual way it was browsing through family life and experiences, image by image, it reminded me so much about authentic…
don’t go back to the same empty well and expect water that include friendships, family members, work life and your relationship with yourself we all have old stories practiced for a long time some run a big part of our life depending on how many times we have practiced them inside of us. The way…
Different paths, different teachers, but what works the best you finding your own medicine, whatever form that is, you will sense it in your body, in your life, it is a matter of inviting in to your life all the things you love, start with the small things, it will grow, it will guide you on your path, sometimes you will feel lost, it is part of the road, sitting with it, going deeper inside of yourself, detours are also pointers and blessings although it doesn’t look that way, sometimes we are only able to see it later on our path that the changes in direction helped us. We cannot force ourself on the path, sometimes it takes time and faith, other times, we are put on our road in an instant. Be you, try to let go of who you think you are suppose to be, all the stories, expectations and feelings of powerlessness. Being in solitary will help you to slow down all the outside noise, we are not supposed to arrive somewhere, a goal or a specific achievement- this is about being who you are every moment, we are the spark of light, a divine being, connected, one, creator creating itself in every moment, love in form, be in your own presence, listen to yourself…
is the title of the woman meditating by designer Anja Tverdokhlebova It’s so lovely her message with jewelries… It made me think, that the calmer you are the clearer you think, let things be, its a choice we make again and again, pause, you return to yourself, slow is powerful and strength, let go of…
If you as a child have experienced not being loved, suffered abuse or have being abandoned at home or out there in your world, you may have created another and better world in your imagination, a world where you have felt love, care and being chosen. These imaginations continues as adults and are called potentials.…
This was last year in Sweden, but a reminder to myself how simple and joyful life can be when you are being present, feeling joy, experiencing life openly with your heart…
