I ordered this book from my local library and received a notification that is was ready to be picked up while I was in Greenland, now Im under a little time pressure because I cannot renew it, because it came the whole way from Taiwan, I have made a reading plan how many pages I need to read each day (Im already behind 🙂 ), but I will give it a try…it just looks so interesting…
My daughter have also recommended me this book – which is in queue ….
I wonder if any of you know these two books or have other book recommendations- then please let me know, it will be much appreciated..
Remember that children are closer to life and being the soul they. Most of us have for many years been trained out of the natural way of being and our soul awareness. Although it is common we adults are expected to be the wise ones – we are given another opportunity to learn how to…
Perhaps you grew up in a dysfunctional home or have experienced a lot of difficulties in life, traumas, heartache, pain and struggles you will need to tell yourself and especially your thoughts and thought patterns that life can be good, it can be gentle, loving, full of good people, where you feel safe and experience…
Both my daughters have had birthday this week so out fine dining in Greenland, yesterday a birthday party at a friend here in Denmark, wonderful Marisol exhibition at Louisiana Museum some days ago, a little bit of scrap yarn knitting, enjoying my newly made hand poked tunniit tattoos, bringing home the warmest wool in the world – the muskox wool and some beautiful handmade ceramic cups made from my pottery teacher, (I managed to threw some clay while I was in Greenland, which I will pick up in my summer vacation) then all the lovely hours of playing a new cardgame with my loved ones, melting snow, icy outside, lots of birds singing, offering them some food, sleep and more sleep and some tv, tarot spreads, my world this week, I am not in the world, the world is within me, I am the world, enjoy your world, make it peaceful, beautiful and be in the moment…
To live your life now, go after what you are longing and dreaming about, it doesn’t have to be the big things, it’s more a matter of being you. I have an old father with dementia and spending time with him reminds me to live now. His fading memory comes in waves, sometimes I think…
For living authentically, connect deeply and understand reality beyond you can be inspired by these lovely movies : Wisdom of Happiness with Dalai Lama, directed by Barbara Miller and Philip Delaquis, the Dalai Lama emphasizes compassion, mindfulness, and cultivating inner peace. Innsæi the power of intuition, by Icelandic Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir, explores intuition as a form…
Love is feeling energized and aligned, love is also boundaries and self-respect, it is okay to feel lonely if you are the only one doing some inner work, the most important thing is to stay connected with yourself, we can care for others and have responsibilities, but your needs matters, learning your own needs and…
Emotional unavailable people often gets attracted to people with a lot of light, like a moth to a flame…how come?
Sometimes light feels safe from a distance.
If you are emotional unavailable you often grew up with an inconsistent or an unpredictable caregiver, you lived in emotional scarcity . So you crave the light and the warmth, the safety, the regulation, the acceptance and the non-threatening, and gets attracted to light and how it makes you feel as if you can breathe again, but the backside of it is you don’t want to feel the vulnerability and the intimacy going along with it, because nobody taught you.
When you are emotional unavailable, the nervous system is unregulated and your avoidant pattern attracts expressive people or people with light so you can learn how to regulate your nervous system. The outcome is you feel desired, seen and alive…but for many too much closeness can also create a threat and flight response.
We are helped when we meet the light or an emotional alive person, because they help us uncover what we suppress ; grief, longing, tenderness and different needs. We all need deep connections, and if you for different reasons don´t allow yourself to become more, to become the version you are longing for, light will illuminate the avoided work which needs to be done. It can feel terrifying and stir up fight and flight responses when we see it in others and they get close.
The moth circles around the flame, comes close, pulls away and comes back again, and this flame and moth analogy creates a push pull dynamic, which can create intense attraction, sudden distance, confusion and highs and lows. The thing is, no one can heal someone who doesn’t choose to be healed, no matter how much light you have. The flame glows steadily, it doesn’t chase, doesn’t dim to accommodate and it burns no matter who comes near.
So being warm and emotional available is powerful and beautiful, but our light need some boundaries otherwise it will be self-sacrifice (been there several several times). A healthy connection is mutual vulnerability, responsibility, consistency and repair after a conflict. There is an energy imbalance if only one person is emotional awake.
If we look at it through a spiritual lens, an emotional unavailable person attracts a person with a lot of light, sometimes its soul activation others times its karmic relationships. The unavailable person gets reminded of who they can be by meeting the light or an open heart, it calls them forward and at the same time expose their shadow. For the light person is not the same as rescuing anyone or the shadow, it is purely meant to illuminate and let each person choose the next step.
This dynamic has been a huge part of my own journey, reflected again and again so I could understand the pattern and grow, both as a healer, but also in my own healing process- so when we walk, when we meet and get triggered in our emotions, when we recognize emotional unavailability in others ask yourself these questions :
Am I drawn to be the healer?
Do I feel alive when someone “needs” my light?
Where do I ignore red flags because I see potential?
What would it feel like to be chosen – fully and steadily?
Sometimes (in my case) the deeper healing for the “light carrier” is to be attracted to stability instead of intensity. You can stay open without over giving and holding space for everyone you meet, and sometimes ask yourself if you can allow others to hold you. The way you keep your light sacred and offer yourself selflove is to skip chasing, over explaining, rescuing and over functioning.
Your heart is not a public park – its your home, people can enter slowly, respect your space and contribute to its care…matching investment looks like this : when they show up you lean in, when they withdraw you step back, when they communicate you respond, when they go silent you dont chase…openness is not the problem, we just need some boundaries around it, structures around an open heart is good.
Do what speaks to your soul, we don’t have to match others and to do what is correct, accepted, the proper thing or something and someone others can tolerate, just because they can’t see you or what you see doesn’t mean you need to change yourself to belong, to be loved, trusted, being part of…
When we are having traumas, survival strategies or repeating things in our life, it is our thoughts, memories, patterns and imagination we need to deal with. Past and future doesn´t exist, but we visit and revisit both of them over and over, and we have a specific response to them, and our response create our…
If you are more curious about me, I have another blog called aviajaspace, I have had it since 2012, it is a joyful part of my life when my children where small, a blog where I could express my creative side in the evenings and still being at home…its very rare I post at my…
My time in Kalaallit Nunaat (The land of the humans/Our land) brought such lightness, softness, and a sense of coming home for both me and my girls. Returning to the land that holds our roots can bring a deep level of healing and integration, and it is wonderful to know you feel the shift.
Roots doesn’t have to do with birthplaces, because we are many with a mixed culture and several countries in us…roots is where you feel at home, its about energy, and restoring your identity (not roles, expectations or performance) but more about becoming you, its about feeling connected with your soul and about alignment…
Its also a matter of feeling safe in your root environment, (and still so much can happen around you in the environment), but you feel safe, your nervous system are being regulated, for me it feels like im in my ancestral land and it feels so sacred for me, very emotional, I always feel my connection very deeply – in periods when I have lived outside, I haven’t traveled to Kalaallit Nunaat, because I felt if I returned I had to give up my dailylife…so in a way I have been avoiding my longing, or compromised for different reasons…
Every time I sense my inner mode shift to restoration mode, the light, the smells, the humidity, the landscape, the humans, the humour, the dialect, everything matters and help the stress hormones to drop. The feeling of connectedness to nature, family stories, lineage, Im a dot in a long lineage thread, stories told again and again…
Its also interesting how it awakens different feelings, im always crying when I travel back, tearing up easily, having overwhelming feelings of both sadness and joy, letting me know what I have missed, who I am (but in a way not able to fully express in the place I came from), the passing time.
This time I haven’t been home in my roots for nearly 6 years. Alongside the feelings of grief there is a strong feeling of gratitude, expansion of my heart, a feeling of quietness, balance and neutrality. I talked with a local, which also move back and forward between countries, and we talked about it and said : They are now in their Nuuk fase (capitol of Kalaallit Nunaat), it comes in waves what we need.
Connecting to our roots strengthen our authority, because we feel more clear about who we are and external noise loses it power, simpler choices, we act from core, not comparison.
Besides the emotional part there is another part, coming back to your spiritual frequency, you remember the energy and yourself, there is less fragmentation in you…
What parts of me softens or comes alive when I return to my roots – and how can I let that version of myself guide my life right now?
me at a friends home where we lived, feeling aligned and alive
Different paths, different teachers, but what works the best you finding your own medicine, whatever form that is, you will sense it in your body, in your life, it is a matter of inviting in to your love all the things you love, start with the small things, it will grow, it will guide you…
Yesterday I went straight from work to the beach with my girls, to celebrate my youngest daughter had passed the theorethic test for her drivers license and me having 3 weeks of vacation. So lovely to swim and laugh with them. Later I decided to stay in the City at my daughters home, because Im…
– my hands rich with Tunniit (Inuit hand Tattoos), energyfield feels free, feeling connected with the natural world, you don’t have to do anything to be loved, those who loves us (and loves themselves) see us with their hearts, they dont compare, they see our attributes qualities, no efforting, letting magic in…Be what you are…
I treasure my time with my girls in Greenland, uncomplicated, stable, consistent, being sure of each other and really love the deepfelt connection I had with one of my old dear friends, so much laughing, playing games, cooking and enjoying so much food together, deep talks, no explaining and no walls, quiet time, my friend invited and hosted our “old” meditation group – what an evening, timeless free flowing pure love – Im soft, I feel awesome, I don´t settle, no chasing and let me remind you again, we don’t need to do anything to be loved…we are love….
Sometimes when we experience feelings as fear or anxiety, our mind can push it out in the back so we forget about it, but the feeling is stored in the body. When we enter an environment, where the senses remind of that experience it activates our nervous system and our body react on it. That’s…
Next week Im visiting a very very old and very large building from the 1700s, where I am asked to offer a house clearing and sense what is going on. I cannot write about where, what and who, but I really look forward to help. When they asked me if I was able to help…
Letting go of victim mentality takes a lot of effort and work, to feel like a victim can be like having a friend you cling to, because that was the one you had through the rough periods in life and it helped you. But to see and release the victimhood and all of its stories,…
Twenty+ years ago I went on one month silent retreat in France, hours of quiet time, getting confronted with yourself 24/7…ego wants to control the whole situation, a lot of commenting, a lot of different thoughts and emotions arising from within, which haven’t been dealt with in dailylife…a lot of boredom and fantasies and the need of being entertained or just escape the quietness, …layers being peeled off and you meet yourself more authentic, more clear and in the now.
Part of the process is to surrender, surrender to yourself, surrender to the unknown, letting go of the control and the need of the outcome, its actual a big task/layer to get through…because throughout life we are told and affected what to do, perhaps we have images of the correct life, or trying to avoid situations and not wanting to repeat what we have seen..sitting there or walking around in silence is both a blessing and a difficult decluttering process where you cleanse yourself for all what is not you…
After one month in France in silence I felt the impact several months after, if I accidentally wasn’t in the present moment, I could easily tap into the silence within. My busy daily life with small children became such a blissful time, a lot of appreciation and joy no matter what was happening…and of course meditation in action…which is you in the present moment.
In a couple of days I will be in a similar environment, back home in Greenland where the vast nature doesn’t ask anything of you, no effort, and nowhere to hide for yourself, so you stop trying. You soften – You listen…
I have always had a lot of dream activity – in periods very clear and helpful messages I have used to guide myself through life. In this period where Im still in the Tibetan Dream and Sleep Yoga course, I had a dream some nights ago which I thought was interesting to write about. I…
Much of the world is build around and alongside the intellect and the rational, but how do we know what we know? Is knowledge solely something derived from measurement and the presentation of evidence, or can it also come from experience, intuition, dreams, relationships, and the direct experience of life? Many before me have probably…
I think we all know that if you want to help others you need to help yourself first. How do we help ourself? As children many of us feel loneliness, because our own parents had traumas, unhealed experiences either inherited or gained through their childhood, I think it is so common… I come from a…
and getting part of my soul back end of next week…filling up my lungs with fresh air, seeing beauty, feeling the gentleness and openness of people, eating plenty of fresh food (animals living a free life), and looking so much forward to hear the silence…my heart, my soul will be filled with light, walking slowly, no rush, no anxiety, reclaiming my energy, being cleansed, renewed, getting my power back, my spirit can breathe…moving without resistance as the taoist’ say…
Its family time, celebrating the birthday of my youngest daughter, meeting friends, seeing people I haven’t seen for nearly 6 years, haven’t been up north for almost 6 years…so it is going to be an emotional visit…with lots of laughter, sweet lovely people…and grande nature…feeling inside what has happened and changed in me since I left Greenland.
If people don’t understand our personal language, I would not compromise and try to fit in, nor would I as the one not understanding others focus on what I dont understand, instead I would look for languages we have in common. You may think it could be where we are born, languages, religions, our race…
rain comes and go and water the plants and flowers – and the wind is reminding us that you may not see it, but you can sense it, we need all kind of weather to grow. We don’t always need to know what is going on, but we can decide if we want to see…
When you throw a stone in to the water, everything stir up, perhaps it gets muddy, and you have to wait for the stone to go to the bottom, and then the water becomes clear again. If you feel you always have had a lot of difficulties and struggles in life, it could be either…
Copenhagen : So moving to feel supported and support my fellow greenlanders in Greenland today (me and my eldest daughter)…
The world support us, we want peace, and although we are less than 60.000 people in Greenland we are strong and never give up freedom 🇬🇱 we do it for our children, future and the world ✨
…There are so many who struggle to hold truth, perhaps a feeling of shame, especially within colonial relationships. The old power structures are falling—this is fully underway and has been for some time now… Some walk ahead to show those who have not yet integrated what we know as Inuit and Indigenous peoples… wisdom, the balance of nature, the spiritual… Truth exists even if it has not yet been acknowledged…
What can you do:
Be a rooted witness Do not shout louder But STAND FIRM Stay in the body Stay in the heart Stay in the truth—even without response
To be a witness is also an active energetic act, as long as you hold a field of clarity while others are not yet able to…
Remember to speak only where there is receptivity: Is this a place where the truth can land?
Do not be disturbed by all the noise—feel into your emotions in the body: anger, powerlessness, grief… they are all energy… let them move within you, let them express themselves through song, writing, movement— let the energy move…
Trust the work of silence… it is about carrying the energy, not explaining it…
Light a candle for those who carried the silence before us, our ancestors. I see you. You are not forgotten. Ask for support to carry the pressure of the present…
Stretch for your consciousness, learn to relax, and the most important thing, love yourself, really love yourself, listen to your needs, listen to what you need to offer yourself this very moment. Today I worked from home, and later had an appointment with a friend, and the plan was to go to the beach and…
that something should have been in another way that you are not worth it fear running the show you don’t have time death you don´t have enough, money, ressources, etc. you are not in connection with yourself or others that you cannot handle or control it Remember you have so much power
I love my plants and all the insects visiting them, I always pick plants which I know the insects love, so they have something to choose between- every morning and evening I have a little routine with my plants, are they okay, do they need something, or just saying hi to the bees, sometimes it…
…my heart is broken, thank you to my sweetest, dearest Nuno – miss you so much and thank you for your very clear sign Tuesday where you died – thank you for all the gifts you have given us the last nearly 16 years, we will always be the four of us, although you are elsewhere now, I will miss you every day till we meet again…may you always be surrounded by love and light..
We are forever creation The light Love Joy Connection We are meaningful We are presence, this moment We are spirit and peace Energy and frequency We are NOW and at Home in our Center
Lately have I been re-practicing slowing down, because I felt it was building up at work, busyness, demands, limited time, feeling exhausted when I got home, fuzzy in my head, you probably know the feeling. So I have been very much aware of my plate of projects, and accepting I wasn’t able to help everyone…
My Tibetan Dream and Sleep Yoga teacher is saying Life is a school where you learn how to remember, what your soul already knows Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche
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